Just A Typical Young Couple

Southaven, Ms

By: Mike Upchurch

Their lives had been planned out long ago.  Just two kids who would find each other somehow. They would lead average lives, nothing exceptional really. They would never be rich or change the world. But they would experience love, they would laugh, they would hurt, they would know all the joys of life.

Daniel would be born in Chicago to a single Mother, barely out of her teens, but they would survive. He would do all the normal things kids do in the inner city.  He would get in fights, play sports, sleep in school, maybe get in a little trouble; just a typical kid dealing with the hardness of life.  An average kid, but a good kid.  Then he would hear about Jesus and be saved in his teens and that would then set his life in a new direction.

 Ashley on the other hand would be born just outside Atlanta to middle class parents, but the product of an extramarital affair her Mother had, and so was shunned for the most part by her Dad. She would live her life as most teens. Her popularity in school would open doors for her, though her Dad seemed to want little to do with her. She too would accept Jesus as her Savior at a Youth Camp when she was 17.  She would live her life in the south, then eventually go off to College up north. There she would meet Daniel, in school on a football scholarship. His kindness and quiet strength would draw her in, something missing in her Father-daughter relationship.

 The plan was they would fall in love and spend their College days together, living their lives and enjoying everything life had to offer them!  They would deepen their commitment to the Lord when Daniel first felt the call of God on his life in his Junior year, and they would vow together then that they would be in ministry together. After College, they would marry and move to the Gulf Coast, where Daniel would be offered a Youth Pastor’s position.  Their lives would be typical. They would have friends they enjoyed being with. They would welcome two children of their own into a loving home. They would eventually pastor their own congregation and impact the lives of many in their town.

 That is, if they’d been born.  You see, the hard truth is, Daniel’s life was taken in an abortion clinic in Chicago, the result of a painful choice his Mother had to make.  Daniel was the end product of casual sex with a man she barely knew, and there was no way she could raise a child as a single Mom. Ashley’s life was ended before it began as well, the angry and inconsolable husband to her Mother insisting that she remove the stain of her affair with an abortion. Their lives were planned out, but those lives never happened. 

Abortion is a political hot button these days. Two states have proposed allowing abortion up until the due date.  But where does God stand?The kids in the above scenario had their lives mapped out by a Heavenly Father who lovingly fashioned them. You might say “God doesn’t do that. He didn’t have plans for them.   They were just a fetus.”  Well, what do the scriptures say concerning the Creator and the plans for whom He creates?

“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank You for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in Your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:13-16‬ ‭NLT

“This will be written for the generation to come, that a people yet to be created may praise the LORD.”‭‭Psalms‬ ‭102:18

“Furthermore, because we are united with Christ, we have received an inheritance from God, for He chose us in advance, and He makes everything work out according to His plan.”‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭1:11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“I will say to the north, ‘Give them up!’ And to the south, ‘Do not hold them back.’ Bring My sons from afar and My daughters from the ends of the earth, everyone who is called by My name, and whom I have created for My glory, whom I have formed, even whom I have made.”‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭43:6-7‬

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.”‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“For in Him we live and move and exist. As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are His offspring.’”‭‭Acts 17:28‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29:11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

If you’ve had an abortion, I can assure you God understands…..and He forgives. I have a dear friend who had an  abortion years ago.  A decision forced upon her by her husband.  Some time later she became a Christian and asked God to forgive her, and of course He mercifully did, as He does us all.  She’s at peace now, but there was torment in her soul for years as she suppressed her emotions concerning that child.  But God DOES forgive and life goes on. 

But the kids in our story, and the 800,000 others aborted each year, had no chance to experience all that life has offered us who have lived.  They didn’t get to love, or to laugh, or to cry, or to be happy. They didn’t learn the sorrows of failure and the joys of success, or to just simply be alive, as we have. Never got their first car.  Never had their first kiss. Never held their first child. They never even got started. And that choice, the choice that they would never live, was made for them by others. 

 If you never have considered it, please see abortion from the Lord’s perspective. If you’re pro choice, and favor abortion because you feel a woman has the right to choose as it’s her body, consider how He grieves as He plans a life for a child that is then aborted.  He lovingly created them with purpose. And that purpose was destroyed. 

I’m not really addressing this column to those who have agonized over the painful decision of abortion for health reasons, but rather to the segment of our population who insists on freely having sex, knowing that there’s a solution for the unwanted outcome of your promiscuity; and to Lawmakers who willingly and cruelly draft and pass legislation legalizing abortion.

 If you’re mulling an abortion, please consider adoption. Adoption is a very real option for anyone pregnant. There are thousands of couples who can’t have a child of their own who would LOVE to give a baby the chance to grow up in a safe and loving environment!  Please, let us give all babies at chance at life. After all, our Moms gave us that chance, and it’s turned out pretty good for us!   Shouldn’t others have the same opportunity?

And that’s the way I see it!

Pastor Mike